We're Home!
Yes, we got home late Monday night and this is the first time I've had to post (the kids are napping, well one is and the other is screaming). Our welcome at the airport was amazing! Many families and friends from our church as well as our family was there to greet us as we got off the plane. It was so good to see everyone, we were so blessed!
It's good to be home. The kids love their new house and their sabaka (dog), Grommit. They do not like to go to bed though. We are seriously sleep deprived! I never thought our child could scream his head off for 5 hours straight but indeed he can. No matter how many times we go into his room to comfort him, the second we leave he turns into Chucky ( the evil doll from the movie)! I hope and pray he gets through whatever he's going through soon because we all need some sleep! Suggestions are welcome.=)
I hope to post pictures and video soon. Please keep us in your prayers as the boys transition into their new home and family.
posted by Chris Goeppner @ 1:10 PM
18 Comments:
Welcome home! We've been home three weeks now and our daughter Dasha does the same thing at bedtime. We got an air mattress and we are taking turns sleeping in her room. She will go to sleep and go back to sleep as long as one of us is in there. Might not be the best thing to do but it's working for now and the book "Adoption Parenting" recommended it as a choice. Naptime is getting better. She will actually stop crying after about 15-20 minutes and go to sleep for about an hour. I'm hoping eventually she'll sleep at night alone but at least for now ew are all getting to sleep even if it isn't in our own beds. I'll be praying for your adjustment to home, it can be rough (at least it has been for us).
Blessings,
Susan Banchero
I do have suggestions....but you will have to call me for them:)
Hannah said she would have a talk with him and maybe she can help him to spread it out a bit. No crying for a few days and then wham....just when you think you might get some sleep...no deal mama! No deal! :)
You will get through it, and believe it or not when they do sleep you will cry and say, "They are so beautiful, I just want to kiss them....but that might wake them...so I will wait!!!"
It is all worth it as you know!
We can sleep when we get to heaven! :)
Welcome Home!
We leave on Tuesday to begin the trek to Krasnoyarsk that you just completed. Our court date is the 25th and we hope and pray to have our little guy about the 3rd of April. Please keepus in your prayers.
Don't fret about the screaming--I know it's tough! I'll keep you all in my prayers that the little ones adjust soon and that everyone lives happily ever after!
Stacy Harrison
Welcome home! Oh I remember those first few nights, ey yi ey, very hard! The thing that worked best for me, was letting them sleep together in the same bed, a twin no less. They did absolutely fine with that, slept 12 hours without interuption! I figured they were used to sleeping in a room very close together with 15 other children, letting them sleep on their own was just too traumatic. And plus, I had such behavior issues with Chase that I had bigger "fish to fry". I let it go on about 2 or three months and then just separated them one day and they have been fine ever since. It wasn't hurting anyone and everyone got sleep including me. Good luck and just know, this will pass eventually.
Welcome Home!
Welcome home Goeppner family!
I pray that the little one will get adjusted and start sleeping! I'd imagine he is just freaked out. I'm praying for you all, ok??
Welcome home. For the sake of sleep, can you sleep in the room with them? Ours were alarmed at being asked to sleep in a room without a grown-up. I'd rather sleep in their bed and actually sleep than sleep in my bed and listen to them cry. Just my ideas.
Sleep and casseroles are everything at this point. Your friends can't bring sleep, so I hope they are bringing food.
Best,
Suzanne
Hi Chris & Penny...
First of all, we're just so incredibly thankful for the way God intervened and allowed you to get your sweet boys home. It's encouraging beyond what I can express. Watching the videos brought tears to my eyes, and it gave me hope that one day God may grant us the same joy of holding our own (and going through the struggle of screaming through the night - not sure I'm ready for that).
Secondly, I don't have any advice for the sleeping issues (for obvious reasons :), but I do pray that God gives you wisdom moment-by-moment throughout the days and months and years as you raise His boys.
We love you both, and even though we haven't seen you face-to-face for years, our hearts are close and we are so thankful for your testimony.
Julie & Todd Starcher
If your kids are not sleeping in the same room, I would recommend one of you guys sleeps in the same room with him. Remember they were used to sleeping in a room with other children.
We only had to do this for two nights, after that, our little guy knew we were right there if he needed us.
Good luck and welcome home!
Welcome home!
Danica will some times swaddle one of our girls with a blanket and gently rock them to sleep. That usually does the trick. You just have to be very reassuring and loving so that the child feels safe.
God Bless!
Jonathan used to be upset sleeping at Grandma and Grandpa's house b/c he was suddenly alone in a room, so Grandpa would sleep on the floor next to the crib (he was 2) and then he'd be fine. I think the air mattress is a great idea. You and Chris could take turns in there so you both have a turn comforting and both have a turn at sleep in your own bed! :) I would NOT bring them into your bed. I think that would be a harder habit to break. Someway, somehow, you need sleep. I'll be praying for you all. This too shall pass...
Penny,
If you can have grandma or aunt or someone close come over and take the kiddos to the park or play with them at home for a few hours and get some sleep. When momma sleeps the house is happy, you will have some clarity. Even if it is for an hour or two, a nap always seems to help. Also, do what you have to do to get them to sleep these first few weeks or month. They have had a huge change in their lives and they want some security. God made you gusy there parents, and he has given only you the absolute wisdom you need to parent them. Trust him in this!
Much love,
The Edwards
I'm revising my statement above... you do whatever God leads you to do. Each family is unique and different and God made YOU Jadon and Roman's parents and He will guide you. I agree with Emily. There is no right or wrong here... find what works and fits for your family. I'll be praying that you quickly find something that works.
Much Love,
Jody
So glad you made it home safely. Transitioning is difficult. You will survive. I'll pray that you get some sleep and so does he.
Chris and Penny:
So thrilled you and the boys are home safely! You have been and will continue to be in our prayers!!!
I echo Jody's comment...most importantly, do what God leads YOU to do; and if you can at all arrange something other than bringing them into your bed, I'd do it. Just like an infant needs time to adapt to the world, your boys need time to adapt to their new world...and what a beautiful world it is in the Goeppner family! One thing I am sure of is that God is faithful and He'll help each of you in this new season :)
Much love,
The Gregorys
We're SO glad you are all home safe and sound! I'm sorry about the sleep deprivation...I know how miserable that is.. and we're about to embark on that journey again in a few days. We can't wait to see you when things settle down and little people are sleeping again :)
We love you!
Welcome home!!! I hope you are able to quickly get some sleep and get adjusted. Your boys are such cuties!
I agree with just about everyone else here. Do whatever you have to do to get some sleep. Remember it's just temporary and eventually he'll be ok with sleeping by himself in his own room. I can tell you from personal experience sleep deprived parents and less patient and less effective.
Also, when I had Justice so many people offered to give me a break if I needed one and even take him overnight for one night. I never took anyone up on that offer, but looking back in retrospect, I think I should have a couple of times.
You guys are in my prayers :)
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